The full moon in Taurus is upon us today, and brings into focus our foundations, home, friendships, and partnerships. This came very fully into focus for me when I contemplated how much I have contracted when it comes to authentic connections with the other people in my life. As humans, we thrive on connections, and the full moon in Taurus had me questioning the health of my connections.
My connections have not been that healthy, or even that existent. Case in point, I recently started frequenting a new nail salon that just opened, and the owner asked me, “Isn’t this something that people usually do with their group of friends, all come together to get their nails done?” in a bid to get me to invite my friends to his new business, but to which I replied, “I don’t have friends like that.”
I have definitely been in a yin period in my life, and the contraction away from pretty much all social connections has been very real. But connecting with the energy of the full moon in Taurus has been prompting me to question why the strong contraction, what I have gained from it, and what I need to do to begin expanding in this area.
The answer came in reframing my story. I have had a hard time with friendships my whole life, probably related to my lack of self-esteem and inability to find and use my voice. Couple that with a few years of massive burnout, and it is no wonder I have been in a state of contraction for a few years.
I have been listening to the Tarot for the Wild Soul podcast during the last couple of days, trying to get caught up, and in episode 43 it was mentioned that tarot, rather than being something that predicts the future, is like a therapy session. I pulled some cards related to an experience I had with a friend many years ago, and it flipped the script on what I had been telling myself about this friendship. Rather than focusing on what had been done to me, it reminded me about the strength I had in standing up for who I was and what I believed in, and getting out of the friendship when it became toxic based on those beliefs (it was pretty toxic anyway, but that is a story for another day). It also told me through the five of pentacles that, yes, my social life has been very barren, but a new time of growth is coming.
It was a powerful session because it made me look at a situation in which I had been feeling sorry for myself with new eyes. Instead of focusing on what had been done to me, I was focusing on the actions I took, which were really brave and showed an amazing amount of growth in the area of my own self- esteem. To stand up for who I was and who I was growing into in the face of a massive amount of judgment and ridicule, and then to make the decision that I was not going to put up with that in my life and choosing to take my energy elsewhere – that was brave for a lot of reasons, because that was just about the entirety of my support system at the time, since I was a single mom.
Reframing is powerful, and giving the guilt, shame, and other negative feelings I had been feeling to the Taurus full moon was very powerful as well. I am very grateful that the rain didn’t come until morning, so that I had opportunities to talk to the moon and give up those feelings to it. Hopefully focusing on my strength rather than my weakness will help me in my connections with others moving forward.
I used a very basic spread for my story reframing – and keep in mind that the reframing came from what the cards showed me, not from the questions that I asked.
- What was the experience? How is it defined?
- What lesson do I need to learn from the experience?
- How do I need to move forward after the experience?
- What energy do I need to pay attention to after the experience?
Those are the questions that I asked the cards. Notice that I did not define the experience. I asked the cards to do that. I think that was a key in being able to have the story reframed.
Have fun with this and I hope it helps! Don’t be afraid of what comes up, and make sure to journal about it.